In Regards to Negativity in the Community
So, I'll start this off by saying I'm 19, and I'm very new to games and, y'know, life. I haven't had it very easy in life and have always looked towards the positives, and I have noticed so much negativity in the world and especially in video games. This community has people getting mad over basic perks, people playing in order to provoke others, and the forums having lots of less than civil debates. I know that every game has people who use homophobic, racist, offensive slurs, but my goodness it doesn't make it okay. I don't care if this post is closed or I get banned for this, because I will always advocate for being a decent human being. There is a person on the other side of the screen. So many people play this game, all with varying identities and backgrounds who play a game to escape reality or just have fun, and I'm disgusted by the negative and offensive comments I see pertaining to said identities. Call me any name you want, tell me all the games that have this happen, etc. but what's your argument? Excusing disgusting behavior or ignoring it? I like bringing joy and fun to the forums, but I have seen an endless stream of 'I hate players who use [character/perk/item]' or 'People who play like this suck' and it just adds fuel to the fire. I think what really tipped me off recently was in regards to Freddy's backstory and a user saying that we should feel bad for OP not liking a horrific fact of life in an 18+ game. Have some sympathy ffs, I usually put a smiley face or exclamation points in my posts but I'm really, truly disgusted by this mentality. Empathy should be a normal response to things like that whether it's in a game or in the real world. I also am not making this post based off of one comment from recent memory, because I've encountered this stuff in every game and I'm probably just screaming into the void, but I'd rather get this off my chest. If you read this far, thank you for coming to my TED Talk on respecting others lol
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As the saying goes "Treat others the way you want to be treated".
Personally I think people just have to take things less seriously. Words mean nothing on online games.
Yeah, I'm cool with being called a cuss word, but it's when it has to do with my identity that I feel personally ashamed and upset. I like to be lowkey and just have fun, but I won't excuse racism, homophobia, and other slurs of the like.
Never should. Just always laugh it off mate.
They allow you guys to post on the internet from the containment cells? :P
Shhhhhh, I swiped a keycard. They don't knowI'm a dinosaur. I was here for the dawn of online pvp. While there's always been trolls, and at the risk of coming across as boomer, this is definitely a more modern thing. The old pvp crowd in the days of shadowbane, Ultima online, etc... They would do a lot of trash talking on the forums, they would go online and try their damndest to burn each other's cities to the ground, and then they'd go back on the forums to gloat a bit about it. 9 times out of 10, they'd also be in their opponents' TeamSpeak or private forums congratulating them on a hard fought battle, talking about what caught them by surprise, and how much fun they had, at the same time they were writing trash talking forum posts.
The crap we have today is a mix of bitter care bears upset at getting beat in a pvp game that 100% advertises itself as pvp, and petty, small-minded folks who cannot get off unless they are literally making someone miserable. The stuff you see thrown around in multi-player games today would've had you kicked out of your own gaming group in the early days, even the ones who nolifed pvp to the point of utterly eliminating all competition on their servers. Personal attacks were largely no-go, unless someone was just a flagrant ahole in public constantly.
Gaming has changed a lot over the last few decades, a lot of it for the better. Gamers have also changed a lot in the last few decades, and a lot of it for the worse.
Where did you get that white heart emoji? 👁️👄👁️
This
Chances are 90% of those games where you get tunneled and ebony mori'd two minutes in were because the killer had a really tilting game or trolling SWF last game and is taking out some rage on other players who did no wrong.
Who in turn bring a BNP or Instaheal and DS/Unbreakable next game because they're sick of this happening.
Heck, I used to do this myself until I saw a video about it and realised how dumb it is.
I still play to win but I don't go out of my way to ruin someones experience (even if it feels like some survivors are getting off doing it to me sometimes). My golden rule is that as long as the player hasn't sandbagged teammates/farmed teammates/ or done something blatantly trying to troll me I'll never hook them twice in a row.
I joined the forums to have decent arguments but most people here don't want to actually have arguments for the most part is "I can't be wrong so you are wrong".
I can name about 8 guys/gals in here who actually have great arguments and have opened my eyes in certain ways.
Also it seems that people forget a few things you mentioned, 1. There is someone behind the monitor and 2. A simple thing that every human should have which is empathy.
I guess the way we were raised it was different, this is probably unrelated but I'm 24, I started smoking when I was 15 when my mom found out that I smoke she well did what most moms would do which was slap me and made me eat a cig (no joke and I don't hate her nor hold grudges) but after seeing a coworker how they treat his son (his son smokes) he told me that when he was a kid, adults weren't supposed to see kids smoking and kids talked to adults as if they were friends they could and would either slap you or scold you.
It was an unrelated story but most of the time you can see that not to be offensive but some people really had a very bad childhood or parents that didn't cared for them enough to teach them the basics of empathy and stuff like that.
That's interesting. It isn't often I meet others with personality disorders only for me it's different. I have borderline personality disorder. Definitely stigmatized with movies like Fatal Attraction or the yandere archetype in anime 🤣That crap is only half true. 🔪
Not being wired like others definitely tends to suck.
The truth is, dbd isn't the game w the most toxic community.
Raging gamers are everywhere.
It just so happens that this game has a lot of entitled ppl who believe they deserved something and confusing killing and being nice.
Yeah. But it's got it's perks, or at least for me it does. Helps that I remember being relatively normal, if that term even exists. Maybe it's why I like to be kind even if I don't get the twisted gut feeling when I'm not.
Nah, me and you share the same views here. I mean sure, I got the whole "girls don't play video games!" When I was a kid, but it wasn't like it is now. I was a kid when Halo got popular and even then people laughed with each other over losing. Now, my fiancée can't play the likes of COD without some 12 year old screaming that he beat a girl in a game.
Lmao, it pains me to say I'm not up to speed on my emoji speak, so I had to Google what a white heart means 🤣
You are a sweetheart and I learned something new today 💛
I don't mean to intervene here, but I am super emotional and sensitive to everything. Just last night I cried over an oreo commercial because a stuffed animal wanted to eat oreos and I couldn't handle it lol! I developed it through severe anxiety and get embarrassed sometimes, but I have been told by my friends that I have developed a sixth sense for when they need help or are upset. Also, the way you described the twisted gut feeling is kinda cool, I usually get butterflies or blush a lot from joy!
Well, that explains why you're always so nice to interact with