Xbox series x|s - new update making it unable to play with friends

Fordcobra1

It first started after I finished a match with my friends when I got booted to the main menu where it said my updates didn't match my friends so I had to go manage dbd to update the patch, but now when ever I try to join my friends whether throughout xbox or the dbd menu in kyf and swf I get the same message "GAME VERSION MISMATCH Unable to join host. Please ensure there is no pending update of the game in your download queue."